4 Stinking Thinking Cycles That Destroy Your Brilliance and Keep you Stuck

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Got stinking thinking that’s holding you back as a business leader? Maybe you can relate to this conversation I had with a former client.

“The thoughts you are thinking are killing your progress.” This was my coaching advice as John (yes I’m changing his name to protect his identity) revealed his “mindset junk” during our last coaching call. Now these weren’t new thoughts arising. Typically he had thoughts such as…

“Why am I so far behind?” (with a spiraling angst right after wards)

“Holy crap our numbers are down this month” (and panic follows)

“If I had only done X differently we wouldn’t be at Y.” (self flagellation leading to a sleepless night.)

I asked John, “Do these thoughts help you?”

The answer, “No.”

“Then why do you keep letting them run your life?”

As a business leader or entrepreneur, Stinking Thinking will trap you in a life you don’t want. John isn’t the only one whose growth is impacted negatively by his thoughts…we all are. Every one of my clients has had to learn to gain control over the junk in their heads. So have I. Some days I’m better at it than others.

I’ve found that there are four very damaging “Stinking Thoughts” that tend to have the worst impact. They are the spiraling thoughts that comes from:

    1. Disappointment (Usually some form of “why couldn’t I have/get”)

    2. Fear (What if X, Y or Z happens)

    3. Desperation (I have to do X or I’ll starve/go broke/be seen as a failure)

    4. Judgment (I’m a loser/I’m behind – look at Jane, she could do it why can’t I?)

Each of these four thought patterns causes us to experience a heightened state of stress. Our minds get clouded. Perception gets distorted. Angst or depression sets in. Worry ensues. Desperate actions kick in to solve the program. Over and over again we cycle through an ever growing internal despair which leads us to a dark place. We are now in what I call “the well.”

Imagine being inside a deep dark well. First of all you are scared. It’s probably damp, there may be some very unsavory critters down there and you start to panic. Your next thoughts are on how the HECK do I get out of this flippin well?

You are consumed with just getting out.

Trust me, this is not the place to make big, life-altering decisions from. This is NOT where successful thriving thoughts occur. But many of us try to uncover our Big Ideas that will have a huge impact and generate tons of wealth while we are in the well.

When you are in the well, just get yourself out. Don’t try to get fancy and conquer the world, just figure out how to get to neutral ground again.

Getting out of the well can be hard. It can be exhausting. And when we routinely land in the well over and over and over again because our “stinking thinking” is dragging us down, we don’t have much energy to be brilliant. As a matter of fact we’ll probably just hit mediocre.

If you find yourself routinely in the sticking thinking I’ll cover in my next post how to shift out of Stinking Thinking BEFORE you get in the well. But for now, I’m curious to hear if you have a regular “Stinking Thinking” pattern holding you back? Take the first step and share it in the comments below. I promise it will start liberating you from the pattern!

PS I want to say word of gratitude for my amazing, powerful, courageous and brilliant clients who share their scariest demons to me so I can help liberate them. You are my inspiration and I’m honored to be your guide into being a liberated thought leader. =-)

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1 Comment

  • Robert

    July 5, 2011

    This posting hit home. I’ve been in the well for too long now. In fact at times it seems like I’ve got an entire living room set and bed down there. No wonder a “big idea” seems like a stretch right now. As the article says, I’d be thrilled to just get back to neutral! What’s the best way to to that?